We are proud to announce one of our therapists, Jenifer Costigan was invited as a guest speaker and appeared on the "Love, Sex, and Religion" podcast.
To listen click on the link below:
https://soundcloud.com/lo…/sex-therapy-feat-jenifer-costigan
What's Really Up with Herbal Viagra!
I’m sure you’ve all read about, or at least have heard about, the big sex scandal that is surrounding Lamar Odom. Before we begin, let’s do a little recap. Mr. Odom had a four-day stay at a legal brothel in Nevada where it was reported that he had been mixing alcohol, cocaine, and herbal Viagra pills. On the fourth day there, Mr. Odom was found unconscious in his bed. In a few of the articles I have read, the brothel owner stated that Mr. Odom had taken about 10 of the herbal Viagra pills within his four-day stay there. This trending story has inspired me to write this blog for you guys on the benefits, as well as the health concerns that come with taking any herbal Viagra supplement.
There are numerous pills out there that are labeled as male sexual enhancement pills, all which are not FDA approved. The main reason why the FDA does not approve these is because they contain an ingredient, which is not listed on the package, called sildenafil, or more commonly known as Viagra. Sildenafil is never listed on the packages because one has to have a prescription from a doctor in order to obtain Viagra; whereas anyone can simply buy an herbal Viagra pill from a gas station or their nearest sex shop.
Lets start with the good news, the advantages to taking an over the counter Viagra. Due to the main ingredient being sildenafil, it will work just like Viagra does. These pills will help increase blood flow to the penis, resulting in a stronger, firmer erection. These pills will also increase the girth size of the penis, again, because the blood vessels running along the shaft are dilating, allowing more blood to flow through. These pills are also known to help increase a man’s stamina; therefore he will be able to last longer than he normally does. Also, after the man ejaculates, these pills will help him regain another erection in less time than it usually takes.
Now on to the bad news…these pills do come with some health and safety concerns. All of these pills are vasodilators, meaning they help the blood vessels expand, which in turn lowers a man’s blood pressure. Most of these pills come with a warning on the back stating that the user should talk to their doctor about taking the pill prior to using them; especially men who are already dealing with high blood pressure, have heart problems, and/or have diabetes. Mixing any other medication, especially pertaining to these health concerns, can be very dangerous, if not fatal. Most of the pill packages even advise not to take more than one pill within a 72hour period—which Mr. Odom exceeded.
All in all, I hope the Lamar Odom scandal didn’t scare anyone away from trying any of the over the counter herbal Viagra pills. I do, however, hope that it has shed some light onto the risks and consequences that can result from not paying attention to the warning labels and not talking to your doctor first. These pills can, after all, help boost a man’s confidence and liven up your sex life!
Sex Therapy FAQs
Typically, when people ask me what I do I tell them that I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist-Associate and that I am working towards specializing in Sex Therapy. Once that cat gets out of the bag, in come the questions! I have found that there are a lot of misunderstandings as to what it really means to be a sex therapist and what exactly happens during a session focused on sex therapy. So, I have compiled a list of the most common questions that people tend to ask.
Q: “Does a sex therapist have sex with their clients?” A: NO!!! Definitely not! Sex therapy is just like any other type of psychotherapy; all you do is talk.
Q: “Does the couple have sex with each other in front of the sex therapist?” A: Again, NO!!! There is no touching of any kind, nor are any sexual acts played out. However, the therapist may encourage the couple to go home and try an exercise that was discussed during the session, if they are comfortable with it.
Q: “Do you have to be in a relationship to go to sex therapy?” A: Not at all! Although sex therapists typically see couples, there are times when an individual is dealing with sexual problems of their own.
Q: “What type of issues does a sex therapist help with?” A: Sex therapists generally help discover different emotional issues that are creating sexual problems between the couple. Sex therapists also help people who are dealing with issues such as: lack of desire, difficulty achieving orgasm, difficulty getting and/or maintaining an erection, premature ejaculation, pain during penetrative sex, unwanted fetishes, and sexual addiction.
Q: “Does a sex therapist ever get embarrassed or uncomfortable during session?” A: Due to the sex therapist’s extensive knowledge in the field, nothing you say will embarrass the therapist, nor should it embarrass you! Just like any other therapist, your issues will be treated with compassion and understanding. (And don’t worry, your sex therapist has probably already heard of anything and everything there is to do with sex at least once!)
Q: “Is my relationship ruined if my partner and I have to go see a sex therapist?” A: Absolutely not!!! Even though most people tend to wait too long to seek professional help, seeing a sex therapist, by no means, implies that there is no hope for your relationship. In reality, coming to therapy shows a lot of strength in the relationship; it shows that your relationship is something worth fighting for. Seeking help from a sex therapist can allow your sex life to flourish and liven up like you’ve never seen it before (and who doesn’t want that!).
I hope this entry has helped broaden your view on what sex therapy really is and I hope it has helped fight any stigma that may be keeping you, and your partner, from getting the help you really need and deserve from a sex therapist!