The evolution of technology has allowed us to reach corners of the world that we could not imagine years ago. We are now able to connect with people from around the globe and create and maintain connections. This technology has also brought the era of dating apps and being able to find love without having to leave our homes. However, the idea of finding love through a dating app is still uncommon and may have many of us wondering how to navigate these new opportunities to find love.
Understanding Dating Apps
It has become more common for people to seek love through dating apps. Many of my clients from different age ranges have become more interested in using dating apps but have had many doubts and questions on how they work and what to expect. Society has become more accepting of this practice and opening up to the possibilities.
Some of the popular dating sites include Bumble, Hinge, or eHarmony. Each dating site has its different ways of connecting with people. For example, on Bumble the woman makes the first move on her matches. Try exploring dating apps and what their purpose is and what the majority of people on those sites seek. Also, keep in mind that some of these websites require extra memberships in order to use some of their features.
Today’s Societal Dating Norms on Online Dating
Exclusivity while online dating might not be as common due to people having the opportunity to connect and match with multiple people. I often hear clients feeling upset after they discover that their match might be seeing other people at the same time. Therefore, it might be important to understand that on online dating people are meeting with others simultaneously. What I encourage you to do is communicate clearly what you expect while dating and discuss boundaries and expectations about what each of you is looking for.
You may have heard of “ghosting” which is when a person simply disappears without communicating the reason. Oftentimes, ghosting can leave people wondering what they did wrong or struggle with the feelings of rejection. Remember that we are not in control of what others do and can only control our own actions. Focus on how you can continue to grow as you continue to meet new potential partners.
Commitment in Modern Dating
Everyone might have a different meaning of what commitment means and looks like. Some may believe that commitment is marriage, while others might believe that it is having a stable long term relationship. Regardless of the meaning you have, it is important for you and the other person to have honest discussions of your expectations and if it is time to take the relationship to the next level.
Are we ready to commit to each other? Consider these tips as you decide on taking the relationship to another level!
Curiosity
Prioritize getting to know each other and avoiding falling into assumptions. Often people come in with assumptions that get in the way of giving each other the opportunity to learn from each other. Try to be curious and explore what are each other’s interests, values, beliefs or dreams. Learning from each other can help you determine compatibility. Keep in mind that compatibility does not mean agreeing with each other but being able to accept and respect each other's view.
Transparency
Being honest and transparent can lead to increased intimacy and trust. It might not always be easy or comfortable to express your feelings or thoughts but it is helpful in building a strong foundation and connection.
Communication
In any relationship, communication is key and the foundation of a strong relationship. Healthy communication can look like validation, active listening and understanding the other person’s point of view. If in doubt, always be curious and ask the person more about what they are sharing to you.
It is always recommended to be aware of red flags and set boundaries when needed. Be careful about sharing inappropriate content as it can remain on the internet forever. Also, always try to meet your matches in a public space and let your family and friends know where you will be going in order to practice safety measures.
Therapy can also be a good way to help you discuss more about healthy relationship skills and how to navigate online dating. Our therapists in Fort Worth, TX can provide guidance on how to navigate online relationships and strengthen your confidence in seeking love online! If you are interested in further discussing dating issues with me feel free to book a session or schedule a free 15 minute consultation. You can also use the link below to learn more about me!